Friday, October 31, 2008

Can we ever do enough?



Our relationship started 13 years ago. We picked her up from a dog pound. She was a deserted puppy pick up by one of the committee member of PAWS. We wanted a dog for our boy as Christmas present. We adopted her into our life. She has been part of the family since then. She was our friend, guard and companion.

Loopsy has finally given her last breath. It is both a sense of relief and sadness. Relief, because she need not suffer arthritic pains anymore. Sadden because of the many years of relationships. She is one of the best dog one can have obedient and faithful. As we lay her to her final rest, a sense of regret plagued my heart. Have I done my best for her?

The last few years there were quite a lot of changes in the family. Each episode of these changes affected her in some ways or another. She had taken all these in silently. The last change episode was the toughest one.

With my eldest son leaving to serve in Singapore, we have to force her to live alone. We visit her regularly to feed, clean and groom her consistently but humanly we forgot sometimes. Spending time with her was even more difficult as we are all kept busy by the demands of life. Was it fair to her? Have we done enough for her? Or can we ever do enough for anyone? These questions pricked my heart in my last goodbye. Sigh!

Thursday, October 23, 2008

Civilized Barbarianism

I am prompted to write after reading an article in Star papers today entitled: Youth, Sex and Doing Business (If you are interested this is the link http://thestar.com.my/columnists/story.asp?file=/2008/10/23/columnists/awriterslife/2336105&sec=A%20Writer%27s%20Life ). Am I shocked, surprised or appalled by the media highlights of social evils and moral decadence? No is an absolute answer. The daily dosage of realities has effectively anesthetized our feel toward such realities. I am saddened, concerned and angered by these senseless behaviors and more disgusted by the adults who are engaged in these things.

To some they will say what right I have to be so judgmental. Maybe this is due to the fact that I am a man of the cloth. My expressed and forthright concern may be deem by some as judgmental. In fact most confrontation or expression of truth involves a certain of judicial elements. You may agree and not agree with my perceptions, it is one own fundamental right, one may so argues. The fact is that when your so call right transgress into social space and hurt someone, you have lost your rights. I sounded a little philosophical here.

What really bothers me, is the perception that we are a "Civilized Society". The term "civilized" was used to present a contrast between social groups, the cultured and the uncultured (Barbarians). We have better education, unlimited access to knowledge, better medicine and the list can go on. Have all these advancement caused us to be more civilized? By right it should, but reality seems to points to the contrary.

Are we really "civilized", or have we in modern society camouflaged our barbaric acts with social sophistication and technological mask? The ruthlessness in society today fairs not better than the past. Moral abuses abound and we just give it a name as a social disease. We care little of the consequence of how our actions affect others. We call it the survival game.

If we take a hard look at ourselves, we often can see the "civilized barbarianism" in us wanting to take over in the many social expression in our life.

Monday, October 13, 2008

Snippet reflection of change

All of us look forward to changes that improve our life. I am absolutely sure that none of us welcome changes that affect our life negatively.

We are confronted with myriad of changes as we prod along our Christian journey. Meaningful personhood involves the dynamic combination of the moral, social, emotional and spiritual dimension of our lives. Prioritization of these different dimensions of life is critical to meaningful personhood. Changes often pose a challenge to our life prioritization. A misplace priority can upset our life balances for the long term. How do we know when and how do we embrace these changes?

Here are some guiding principles:-

  1. How would these changes affect my relationship with God and my spiritual life?
  2. If I accept and embrace these changes will it uplift my moral values?
  3. How do these changes help me socially as a Christian and my testimony for God?


 

We can't avoid changes but we can evaluate changes.

We do not need follow changes to be in vogue with the "Jones". Changes appropriately embraced brings positive inputs and produce positive outcomes in our lives and personhood. It makes us more effective in our lives and ministries.


 


 


 

Saturday, October 4, 2008

Integrity: The Seamless Connection

Written by the owner of this blog.
Published in Leadership Insight (An AG Malaysia Publication)

"The world is filled with people who make lots of money in questionable ways" drug dealers, con artists, dishonest business men, politicians on the take, and so on. If you measure success simply by how much money you make, then you must realize that people who accumulate riches in a dishonest manner lack something that is the true mark of success "character and integrity."
Glenn Cutforth.

Integer, the Latin root means "whole" or "complete" and integeritas means soundness. When a person is described as having integrity, it speaks volumes about that person. It is a word coveted by many but not easily attained. For the "man of the cloth," this character quality is of utmost importance for his personal life and ministry. For him (or her), integrity is beyond intellectual capabilities. Integrity must be lived out through the everyday realities of life.

To nurture this important character quality, it must begin with the aspiration towards wholeness. This concept of wholeness is the seamless connection of the minister's private and public lives, which concur with their spiritual, emotional and cognitive spheres. It is not uncommon for people to compartmentalize the domain of their public, private and spiritual lives and make them mutually exclusive. In reality these attempts are untenable. Stephen Covey is right to observe the inseparable connection between public victory and private victory. Jesus emphatically alluded to the fact that we must love God with our whole being (Luke 10:27). As Christian leaders we can indulge in the Jekyll and Hyde syndrome and go through life with split personalities. As ministers, we are called to aspire and pursue wholeness in every aspect of our lives.

This aspiration leads us to the next step in our quest for wholeness, constancy or being consistent. Like a baby to a cradle is integrity to constancy. We are to live such good lives that through our deeds people will see the goodness of God (1 Peter 2:12). We are to live out what we preach. Wholeness is nurtured through living out our everyday lives with a constancy that does not compromise our convictions, which are based upon scripture. Wholeness is demonstrated by our steadfast faith in Christ even if we do not see the outcomes. Many are tempted to compromise integrity for the exciting adrenalin rush of sparkling results and achievements. So often have we looked for the "extraordinary" that we forget to live out the consistent "ordinary." It is in the consistent ordinary that our core values are shaped. Constancy means taking little steps of doing what is right even if it means going against the tide of the prevailing majority. This constant practice will give us the courage to do right in tough times. Jesus said that, Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much" (Luke 16:10).

The twin to constancy is commitment. A person cannot be consistent if he is not committed to a set of convictions. There are many sources that contribute to our convictions. The primary source, which our core values must rest on, is scripture. As we diligently study scripture, we will conduct our life in such a way that concurs with godly values. The secondary source from which our core values are derived is our movement's fundamental beliefs that Jesus is our Saviour, our Healer, our Baptizer and our soon-coming King.

As leaders, we have to see our lives as a journey of living out our convictions based on our faith in Christ. Therefore it is not a life of convenience. Convenience is from the stable of compromise. Convenience and integrity are at opposite poles. Therefore, our consistent commitment and our solid convictions will help us confront the waves of convenient, lackadaisical living and spiritual leadership. In a society consumed with speed and instant gratification, we are often pressured to make decisions that are based on short-term relevance rather than on long-term significance. What works for now conveniently becomes more important than what is true. So often the argument for the need for relevancy takes precedence over convictions. Don't get me wrong. Relevancy is good if used within context. But relevancy for the sake of convenience is something else. The challenge for the leader is to find the fine line that divides between context and convenience.

Integrity stakes its ground on truth. The price tag for integrity comes with it, a life of inconveniences, which to many is a seemingly unprogressive and boring life. Jesus was often pictured as counter-culture in the New Testament. When He walked on this earth, He was not just being a non-conformist, ultra conservative or outdated. He was and still is the epitome of truth; he lived and walked the truth. When Jesus walked on earth as a man, truth and His Father's will had precedence over all cultural and social attitudes that were in vogue.

The natural byproduct of a person of integrity is godly character or godliness. Ministry leadership is cradled on character more than on charisma. In our present superstar and celebrity culture, the façade (charisma and good looks) is more important than the substance. There is a Chinese proverb that says, "Often, we greet the outward adornment first, and then we greet the man (xian jing loh yi hou jing ren)". While character is our personality DNA, charisma is the packaging that projects our character. But character is not charisma, and charisma does not accurately project our character.

Godly character is synonymous with Christian wholeness and is the person's life message, written not on life manuals and guidebooks but on his heart. An authentic lifestyle that works out good deeds will leave behind footprints for others to follow. Principle-centeredness, as opposed to majority-centeredness, will govern his motivations and decisions. To be principle-centered does not mean being impractical. It means that truth (our principles of godliness) governs the practicalities of our lives and not the other way around. A person of integrity is a person who will not be held hostage by social demands and views. He does not bow to the pressure of unprincipled convenience. He does what is right and good in God's master plans and purposes.

This may be a modest attempt to define integrity but the aim of this short article is to stir up some reflective thoughts on this important topic. Just as life is multi-faceted, an exhaustive write-up on the topic like integrity is difficult. However this article does suggest that the calling to leadership, as William Law puts it, is "a serious call to a devout and holy life?". It exacts from us a necessary deepening devotion to God, an honest appraisal of our life and ministry and a desire to rightly represent God through our lives. We may not have arrived at perfection, but we must continue to aspire and work towards perfection and that is to diligently work at being a person of integrity.


The Techy Youth Com




Tis is unbelievable, man alive i went into the youth committee meeting tis afternoon guess what I saw they we meeting over their computers. They MSN one another and discuss over the meeting through messenger? This is mind blowing.

Do they communicate in person? So close yet so far. It was real fun to see them. Just joking. They meet like any usual meeting. Just happen that each of them had their notebook. It was quite a sight. I lend mine to one just to "feel in" okay. Guess which is my notebook. Ha ha ha.

Thursday, October 2, 2008

Beyond Spiritual Myopia


One of the common eye problems is call Myopia. It means short sightedness. In short sightedness we can only see things within certain range clearly. If such conditions are severe and untreated it can endangers not only the person but it can be also be a hazard to others.

There is also a possibility for us to develop spiritual myopia. Spiritual myopia is contracted when we focus on this earthly life. Our earthly life is a given. As Christian we have a dual citizenship one that is earthly, and the other heavenly. How do we live to fulfill our obligations in these dualistic realities?

It is important for us to discharge and fulfill our social obligations but not at the expense of our spiritual obligations. There is a natural temptation to overstate the urgencies and importance of the earthly obligations. One classic example is the exaggeration on the needs of things. We have very basic needs but have a humongous appetite for wants.

Know the things we do that can affect us for the long term (Eternity). Invest into developing lasting values. What challenges and encourages us to make light or to disregard eternal values are to the treated with grave caution.

Reflect honestly on our spiritual conditions regularly. Many people have the condition of myopia but rejects corrective measure because of wanting to maintain their image. Not so with us. We stand corrected by God's Word. We need constantly to measure our lives with God's standard and not comparing with one another.

Taking effort to give and pay good attention to spiritual obligations. We need to take time and effort up to understand and to discharge our spiritual obligation. Consider it reverently and meaningfully.

Eccl 12:1-13